Naomi (Noni) Deutekom

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What Are You Running From?

Posted on 14 March, 2016 at 15:10 Comments comments (5)

I often put quotes on sticky notes and put them in my day-planner when I’m reading. Today I was looking through last year’s planner for some information I needed and I found this one: ”All human beings should try to learn before they die what they are running from, and to, and why.” –James Thurber.

What a great description of the process of personal growth and healing. In my counselling practice, I am usually trying to help people discov...

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Conversation Awareness???

Posted on 24 February, 2016 at 17:55 Comments comments (0)

As a counselor, I often teach people tools to improve their relationships. We can all develop better ways of relating to the people we love, work with, play with, or go to church with. We are prone to misunderstanding or assuming what someone means instead of really listening to what they are saying. Learning to ask questions, stepping away from our own agenda, and not becoming defensive are all ways to improve a difficult conversation and avoid an argument.

How do we ge...

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To Do Or Not To Do.

Posted on 2 October, 2015 at 13:30 Comments comments (0)

I recently listened to a pod cast with Michael Hyatte. The theme was built around the now familiar statement Yoda made to Luke Skywalker in The Empire Strikes Back: "Do or do not, there is no try." While this statement comes from of a popular movie it none-the-less rings true. Mr. Hyatte commented that it is all in the language we use. You can't really "try" to do anything, you either do it or you don't. What trying does for us is gives us an out, an excuse if we do something and it doesn't ...

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The Power of the Tongue!

Posted on 23 April, 2015 at 11:20 Comments comments (0)

“That’s Not What I Meant!” is a helpful little book about the effects our words have on our relationships. The author, Tim Stafford says, “It is with words, principally, that we build or destroy relationships.” How we communicate and what we actually say, is as important as what we do. Our actions, of course, must back up our words, but words are the only way we can really get to know one another. No one can read another person’s mind. You must say what yo...

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Posted on 30 March, 2015 at 16:15 Comments comments (0)

Over the last month, I have needed to wage war on my ability to focus. Starting a new private practice (that means –just me), adding new skills and tools to my business, and simply running a business have been part of a stretching experience. I’m one of those people who cannot learn enough fast enough. With such a high learning curve in a short space of time, I have found myself struggling to focus. I am learning to spread things out. I don’t have to know everything the...

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"Who am I -really?"

Posted on 23 March, 2015 at 17:35 Comments comments (0)

Back in the 60’s and 70’s, it was popular to say you needed to find yourself. It seemed rather ambiguous to me at the time. What does that really mean – to find yourself? It seemed like a good excuse to abdicate responsibility, leave a difficult relationship, or seek new adventure. However, there is some validity in asking the question. “Who am I?” can lead you in a number of healthier directions if you pursue personal growth in a more purposeful manner.

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New Beginnings

Posted on 11 March, 2015 at 15:45 Comments comments (0)

Welcome to my very first Blog! I'm excited to anounce that my website is up and running. Check it out and let me know what you think. 

From time to time, I will be posting my thoughts relevant to personal growth, emotional healing, leadership, and spiritual growth. If you have question, feel free to ask. I look forward to sharing life with you all.

Naomi (Noni) Deutekom